As a recovering perfectionist, I understand that there are many layers to dealing with and overcoming perfection. One of the very first things to acknowledge is that perfection is an issue preventing you from moving forward.
Beyond acknowledging that you struggle with perfectionism, the next steps depend on what might be causing your need for perfection. No matter what that cause is one thing that is important to understand is that perfect is different for everyone. Thus as you are trying to be perfect it is literally impossible to be perfect for everyone.
Someone will ALWAYS think you are not perfect – no matter how hard you try to be perfect. - Tweet This!
Diving a little bit deeper let look at the definition of perfection?
According to the dictionary on Yahoo! perfect has a few meanings:
- “Being without defect or blemish”
- “Lacking nothing essential to the whole; complete of its nature or kind.”
- “Excellent and delightful in all respects”
This is just a few definitions. But here is the thing; each of these could be interpreted differently depending on the person and their circumstances.
For example I have a sun spot on my right check. You could say that it means that I am not perfect, but I think it is perfect. Why? That wonderful little spot showed up while I was pregnant with my son. Every time I look at it I think of him, and I think that is perfect.
I think the perfect way to relax is to swim and go to the beach, I think the perfect drink is black coffee, and I think the perfect workout is weight lifting. I am sure you disagree with one or more of these –because we all look at life differently.
So perfection comes down to what you think is perfect, not what someone else thinks is perfect. So why strive to make others happy based on their definition of perfection when it is exceedingly hard to even know what that is.
Instead of trying to be perfect for everyone else, and worrying about what others will think focus on living your life and doing the best that you can do for you today.