You have set a goal and have been working hard at achieving it, yet something feels off to you. Could it be that you are chasing the wrong goal and it might be time for a change?
Knowing the difference between when to stick with a goal and when to give up on one can be the difference between living the dream and ending up full of regret.
It is okay to stop working towards a goal or to modify that goal as time moves on. You do not have to blindly keep working on a goal if it no longer makes sense in your life.
So how do you know if it is okay to make some changes or if you are just giving up too early?
Here are some things to do and ask yourself before adjusting your goal.
Be honest here about why you want to change. Was it an overaggressive goal? Does it no longer match your current lifestyle? Was it originally based on someone else’s goal?
For example: your goal was to save 50% of your income for this year, but you got in a car wreck and your house air conditioner when out. It would be reasonable to adjust your goal based on your changed circumstances. Achieving 40% when life has hit you with some surprises is not a failure.
Another example: let’s say your goal was to become a criminal attorney but you now realize that this was not your dream but your dad’s and you are miserable. In order to live your own life and be happy it is okay to change course. Perhaps you would be happier as a corporate attorney or even doing nothing at all with law and following your true passion. This is not failure; in fact on a happiness scale it is a success that you have recognized that it is not your dream!
Look Ahead in Life
It is time to do some visualizing of your future! Look ahead 5 to 10 years and imagine how you would feel if you didn’t achieve this goal. If you know that you would regret not achieving this goal then it probably is the right goal and you might just be burnt out. Instead of altering the goal, take a bit of a break. Work on some stress management, back off for a little bit or take a vacation. Then get back after your goal.
Talk to Someone
Find someone that you trust and ask them to talk through your goal with you. Have them pick your brain about why you want to change or drop your goal. If you don’t feel comfortable talking with a friend consider hiring a coach to help you work through why you want to stop working on this goal.
Hearing someone else’s ideas and input on what is going on might help you see things with a different perspective. It is amazing how someone not in your day to day life can see the answer easier than you can.
Once you have taken the time to understand why you want to change your goal and have looked at how that will impact your future you can make your decision. Just remember that no goal has to be set in stone, so if life has changed it may be time for a new goal.
Would you stay on the same road if they had re-routed it away from where you wanted to end up? No! You would make the necessary adjustments to ensure that you do get exactly where you want to go. Your goals for your life are no different, make sure you are on the right road for you.
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